I have always wondered how some people could marry for money or status. I can’t fake love, but many people do, especially a narcissist.
Believe it or not, the man I married was just a figment of my imagination. He pretended to be this sweet guy that was kind, considerate and protective. I had no idea of the evil that lurked beneath.
I am an empath, and narcissist love empathetic people. We are people who feel others emotions, very sensitive to how others are feeling and will take on their pain, frustration, anger, I’m sure you get it. We are also very giving and caring. This is why a narcissist targets an empath. They are needy and we are always willing to help and lend a shoulder. They test out how far they can get a person to abandon themselves in order to take advantage and control that particular individual. They don’t love their partner, they are only in love with their agenda, whatever that may be. When they have gotten all they want, they will leave.
Never be confused about them actually caring for you. You are a posession to them. Nothing more. When you own something, you do with it what you want. This is what a narcissist does everyday in a very cunning way. They learn how to read you by your actions and manipulate all situations. While you are falling in love, they are gaining power from being able to control you. Not only that, they feed off of your fears of them, and watching you crash and burn. They don’t care about destroying someone’s life at all. They are willing to suck the very life out of you and watch you die, then claim to be the victim or play the role of the grieving partner who never loved you in the first place.
A relationship with them is toxic. When you notice the attributes, do not try to fix them. They cannot and will not be fixed. You can’t love them out of their agenda. You are just a pawn to them. Get as far away from them as possible. They don’t like to be left before they can attain whatever it is that they want. They will hover over you, beg, plead, cry, become angry, harass, and or stalk you just to get you back into their clutches. My ex-husband did all of these things to me and more! Never go back, their intentions will never change no matter how many times they tell you they will. It’s just another lie to get you to conform.
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